the international conference just got over yesterday. it left me with a richer experience and lovely images. one such image is the image of an impressive individual - long white hair tied neatly into a pony and flowing white beard equally white like the hair in the head (reader, i must confess that people who choose not to dye their original white, evoke my admiration. well, that is a personal fetish. you can forget that part!). the man in question - hoshang merchant! impressive, cerebral, charming and above all a poet and a theoretician. well, i must admit i could not take my eyes off him! the audacity with which he refers to himself as a gay poet is something i encountered for the first time. after conversing with him and basking in his company albeit for a few minutes, i cannot stop to think if there is something like a gay mind. i am definitely alluding to a certain dichotomy here. i am trying to unconsciously create a self and the other. i know that i cannot avoid this. i tried my best to fathom certain aspects while talking to him and i find nothing like that. can i therefore conclude that there is nothing like the 'gay mind.' my mind refuses to take 'no' as an answer. maybe i am thinking so much because this is the first time i am talking to a cerebral gay and therefore the questions choose to arise even without me coercing them too hard. that they are no different from heterosexuals is a known axiom but still deciphering the gay mind for me seems legitimate enough. probably the situation is exaggerated by me. i am tempted to say to myself, 'a gay is a gay. period.'
how does the gay mind perceive a woman, how does the gay mind perceive lesbians, do the gays stand up for matriarchy than patriarchy, why do gays associate themselves with women more than they associate with men (does it operate the same way as a heterosexual), is it only the sexual preference that makes them adopt a different normalcy. . . these and more are some of the aspects that kept churning and turning my thoughts. well, hoshang! are you listening? answer me . . .
Yup, I too believe, there isn't a gay mind.Your thoughts are more than just exaggerated state of mind.They are well supported by logic.ReplyDelete
I guess I would say people are people if that makes sense. trying to perciev how someone else views the world or thinks is an interestin thought but i believe that our life ecperainces and formative years effect our perceptions of the world and others.ReplyDelete
Thanks for the unity in thoughts :)
I partially agree with you. But a slight tangent here. I guess if we ought to know someone better, there should be a sense of trying to see things their way. I know that it is quite difficult, given our varied experience but not impossible.
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There is a gay mindset. I have known many in past jobs and many have become friends with that I could see a closer correlation to the womans psychiReplyDelete
Your insights are quite intriguing. Is it something biological and genetic. I am still wondering.
Thanks for taking the time and effort.
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Time is relative. Effort, none.ReplyDelete
Personally I think it's biological and also being with like-minded people tends to come out within speech and ideas.
You are a sweetheart. Glad that you came by again. Well, . . .
Joy always :)
I guess I've never really pondered those questions much. Probably, because it really doesn't matter to me personally how a person lives their life. People are people at the core, what they eat, what sexual preference they have, what religion they are, etc. doesn't affect their core, if that makes sense. Maybe like this...a trunk of a tree is solid,it serves a purpose. It doesn't matter how many limbs it has, or what color of leaves it has. The trunk is what holds the tree up and keeps it grounded.ReplyDelete
Okay, if none of this made sense, then just erase it...I'm rambling and can't seem to get my thoughts into words today:)
I guess I am a bit too curious and that is why I get into all such questions and ponder. In the process of pondering, I lose my mind sometimes, Mary.
Thanks for coming by. Through reposting, I get to revisit my old thoughts and ideas, which evokes many emotional stances.
Joy always :)
Hi Susan, like what you wrote. I am yet to meet a gay man but from what I hear from my girlfriends who have gay friends are that they are the best friends to have. They are sensitive to women, understanding and very comfortable people to be around. Your Hoshang Merchant seems to be a very intelligent amn.ReplyDelete
Welcome here and what joy to see your insight! Hoshang is an academician and scholar. He works in the University of Hyderabad. Just google his name.